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Tanya Valentin

Specialized Support for Parents of Neurodivergent Children and Teens

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Cycles Of Parenting – Parenting Neurodivergent Young Adults
How To Keep Your Relationship Alive As Partners While Co-Parenting Neurodivergent Children
Understanding Autistic Burnout
Understanding RSD in ADHD
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***Scam Account Alert*** So apparently there is a

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My account has been verified by Instagram so always look for the blue tick.

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Thank you, let’s keep Instagram safe for everyone.
#scamalert #fakeaccount

This time of year is really hard for me as it is f

This time of year is really hard for me as it is full of traumaversaries for myself and my family.

I know that I’m not alone, the lead up to and the holidays can be really tough for a lot of people.

If this time of the year is hard for you please remember that you are not alone.

Sending hugs and spoons

T x

#neurodivergent #autismfamily #traumahealing #audhdwoman #adhdparenting

***Trigger Warning *** This post mentions trauma.

***Trigger Warning *** This post mentions trauma.

This time of the year is hard for me and my family.

I know from reading books like The Body Keeps The Score (Bessel van der Klok) and The Whole Brain Child (Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson) that our trauma and experiences live in our body and can impact us for years after the intial trauma has occurred.

And after years of repeated family crises after family crises at this time of the year navigating our traumaversaries at this time of the year can be hard.

November is also the month that our eldest received their diagnosis of autism at eighteen years old and we were handed a diagnosis, a report and a list of websites and told that their adolescent mental health team couldn’t do any more for them and we would need to figure this next stage of our journey out by ourselves. (A confusing, overwhelming and terrifying experience for all of us).

Since then we have grown and learned so much as people and as a family, that will and has benefited ourselves and others… And it can feel tough negotiating and processing all the feelings and emotions that come up especially at this time of year.

Sometimes it can be hard to know what is a reaction to things that are actually happening in our lives now and what is a response to a traumaversary 😔

We as a family are managing this by being gentle with ourselves and each other and creating a safe space in our family to talk about our feelings and experiences, listening, validating, acknowledging and making amends.

It is hard but it is healing.

Do you have times that feel particularly hard for you or your family, or traumaversaries?

#traumahealing #autisticchildren #neurodiversity #neurodivergentfamily

✨New PLD Opportunity for ECE Teachers✨ I can

✨New PLD Opportunity for ECE Teachers✨

I can still remember how devastated I felt when I read that the average life expectancy of autistics like myself and my children were between 39-58 years of age.

And the most heartbreaking thing about this is that it doesn’t have to be this way.

Most of the trauma that causes these poor outcomes for neurodivergent children is due to living in a world that forces them to hide who they are so that they can fit into this world not designed to accommodate them and their ways of being.

However the things that break your heart have a way of fixing your vision and this particular heartbreak helped steer me to my mission, my purpose, my why. To be an agent for cultural and systematic change in the way that Autistic, ADHD and AuDHD children, teens and adults are perceived, treated and responded to so that they can have better outcomes in life.

This is the driving force behind the education, advocacy and coaching work that I do.

The lack of knowledge and misinformation about Autism, ADHD and other forms of Neurodivergence and the consequences of this is complex and pervasive. It is visible in our histories, in the way that we speak about Neurodiversity, our sense of identity, our parenting and how the education and health systems provide support for us and our children. This starts with how we support our children in ECE and it is going to become even more important as more children are identified as neurodivergent.

If you think that this is important to and you would like to know how to support neurodivergent children in your ECE setting get in touch with me to book this PLD for your team. Great for parent evenings too.

#ece #earlychildhoodeducation #earlylearning #earlyyears #autisticchildren #adhdchild #earlychildhoodteacher

Parenting is naturally hard on relationships betwe

Parenting is naturally hard on relationships between partners, spouses and co parents. When we are parenting neurodivergent children or teenagers a lot of the usual ‘rules’ and parenting strategies don’t apply and this uncertainty can be really challenging for parents to navigate.

If you and your partner have been at odds lately over how you parent your neurodivergent child or teen lately here is something you can do today to start seeming them as part of your team again.

#neurodivergent #autistic #autisticparent #parentingautism #parenting #adhd #pda #autismmom #autismfamily #adhdmom

I realised very early on in my journey that my par

I realised very early on in my journey that my parenting journey might differ from other parents.

During this realisation it dawned on me that the longer I spent butting my head against the unmovable wall of reality the less energy I would have for my supporting my family and the journey ahead.

Remember, radical acceptance does not mean that have to be okay with what is happening you are merely surrendering your fight against reality so you can use your precious resources to support yourself and your family.

#radicalacceptance #parenting #autismfamily #adhdmom #autisticmom

This is 48✨ This week I have been reminded abou

This is 48✨

This week I have been reminded about the cycles life in so many different ways starting with the Cycles of Life oracle card I pulled at the beginning of the week.

As I sat down with my coffee this morning and reflected on the cycles of my life and journaled I realised just how many cycles there have been. I took a moment to honour, thank and forgive the versions of me who were have been on this planet in this lifetime. Each me learning the life lessons, living her purpose and laying the foundation for the next version of me to take her place.

✨I take a moment to be present with the me I am today as I will never be her again ✨

I feel like life is a constant cycle of letting go and renewal and midlife is the powerful time that we really start to uncover become who we are really meant to be.

#midlife #nearly50 #midlifewomen

Our children are always watching us 👀 When the

Our children are always watching us 👀

When they see us taking our own advice or following the same values or rules as we set for them it builds trust and respect and they are more likely to take what we say or ask on board.

What is your perspective on the importance of role modelling as a parenting strategy for your neurodivergent child or teenagers?
#parenting #autismmom #autismfamily #adhdparenting #pdaparenting

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