Tanya Valentin
Neuro-Affirming Support for Parents Navigating The Long Middle of Burnout Recovery
You do not have to carry this alone.
One-to-one coaching for parents navigating the long middle of autistic burnout recovery.
A steady, gentle space to slow down, make sense of what is happening, and find support that actually fits your family.
What Parents Are Saying:
You might be here because:
If you have found your way to this page, you are probably somewhere in the long middle.
The acute crisis may have passed. But things are still uncertain, still inconsistent, still exhausting in ways that are hard to explain to people who have not lived it.
You might be:
Trying to make sense of what is still happening when the worst seems to be over.
Carrying an invisible weight of hypervigilance, grief, and second-guessing that nobody around you fully sees.
Looking for guidance that actually fits your child rather than generic advice that misses the point.
Running on empty but still showing up every single day because someone has to.
Needing somewhere you do not have to explain everything from the beginning.
You are not behind. You are not failing. You are in one of the most demanding and least supported stages of this entire journey.
I am Tanya.
A mother, a coach, and someone who has lived what you are living.
My work exists because I needed it and it did not exist yet. I know what it is to sit in the long middle without a map, without professionals who truly understand, and without anyone in your immediate life who gets it. I know the particular exhaustion of holding everything together while quietly falling apart.
My approach is relational, nervous-system-informed, and completely non-judgmental. I will not tell you to try harder or push through. I will help you understand what is happening beneath the surface, reduce pressure where it is possible, and find steadier ways to support both your child and yourself.
What coaching with me is like
This is not a high-pressure or push-through approach.
Sessions are gentle and collaborative, guided entirely by your family’s current capacity.
You do not need to arrive with the right words, a clear plan, or all the answers. Part of my role is helping you slow things down enough to see what is actually happening.
Together we might explore:
Understanding the long middle: Making sense of where your child is in their burnout recovery, why progress feels inconsistent, and what their nervous system actually needs right now.
Reducing pressure and demand: Exploring low-demand, nervous-system-informed approaches that support safety, trust, and connection in your family ecosystem.
Supporting your own nervous system: Making space for your emotional wellbeing, identity, grief, and the invisible load you carry as the person holding everything together.
Navigating the hard decisions: School, professionals, family dynamics, capacity changes, and the complicated terrain of recovery that nobody prepared you for.
Coaching Options:
Individual Sessions
60-minute Zoom sessions
$150 per session
Ongoing Support Packages
2 × 60-minute Zoom sessions + Voxer support between sessions
Investment: $267 (save $33)4 × 60-minute Zoom sessions + Voxer support between sessions
Investment: $495 (save $105)6 × 60-minute Zoom sessions + Voxer support between sessions
Investment: $720 (save $180)
What Parents Are Saying:
Not quite ready for 1:1 coaching yet?
From Burnout to Balance is a gentle, low-demand membership community for parents in the long middle of burnout recovery.
A place to land and return to at your own pace, with access to resources, community, and live group support.
Explore the membership
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I am not sure whether I need coaching or the membership?
That is a really common question and a completely valid one.
From Burnout to Balance, my membership community, is designed for ongoing low-demand support that you can dip in and out of at your own pace.
Coaching is more personalised and intensive, working directly with your specific family situation. Many parents start with the membership and move to coaching when they want more individual support. If you are not sure, the free connection call is a good place to figure it out together.
Do you work with parents who don’t have a formal diagnosis for their child
Yes. Many of the families I support are still exploring what’s going on for their child or are in the long wait for assessments. You don’t need a diagnosis to receive support — if your child is struggling and you’re feeling overwhelmed, that’s enough.
Can both parents attend coaching sessions?
Yes, absolutely. If both caregivers are involved and want to attend, that can be really helpful. You can attend together or separately — whatever works best for your family.
What’s the difference between autistic burnout coaching and therapy?
Coaching is non-clinical and future-focused. I won’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions, but I will support you with tools, strategies, and compassionate guidance to meet your family’s needs. Many parents find coaching is the “in-between” support they’ve been missing.
What if I feel too overwhelmed for parent coaching right now?
That’s okay — it’s incredibly common. You don’t need to come prepared or have all the answers. Part of my role is helping you figure it out together, step by step, in a supportive, non-judgmental space.
Can parent coaching help with autistic burnout recovery?
Yes. Parent coaching can help autistic burnout recovery by helping you better understand what burnout can look like, reduce pressure at home, and respond in ways that support your child’s nervous system rather than overwhelm it further.
While coaching is not a medical or crisis service, research and lived experience both show that nervous system safety, reduced stress, relational support, and responsive environments can play an important role in recovery over time.
Are our conversations confidential
I take your privacy very seriously. Everything shared in coaching, email, or the membership is kept confidential, unless I am legally required to act under New Zealand law in the event of serious risk of harm.
This is a safe, supportive space where you can speak freely without fear of judgment or being reported. You can read my Confidentiality and Privacy Statement Here.
A note about scope of support
Coaching is designed for ongoing, non-crisis support and is not a substitute for emergency mental health care or therapy.
If you or your child are in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact emergency or crisis support services in your area.
Ready to talk?
The free connection call is a gentle 15-minute conversation to see whether coaching feels like the right fit.
No pressure, no obligation.