I know that as a parent a lot is going on for you right now

  • You might still be exploring a diagnosis of Autism or ADHD for your child or getting your head around your child’s diagnosis and what this means for you and your family.
  • You might be questioning your own Autism or ADHD or exploring a diagnosis for yourself.
  • You may be struggling with how to support your child/teen with their anxiety, depression, panic attacks, melt-downs, shut-downs and suicidal thoughts.
  • You may be struggling to help them manage their behaviour so that they don’t hurt themselves, siblings or others.
  • You may be navigating how to do the best for your child while navigating ‘the system’ (school, medical and mental health), differing parenting styles with a partner, spouse or co-parent and while trying to shield them from other people’s beliefs and judgments.
  • This is all while you struggle to ‘stay positive and strong‘ for your children amongst dealing with your own emotions and grief along with juggle of life.

No one talks about this part of parenting – It can feel hard, overwhelming and relentless!

We all know that when our children are not doing well we are not doing well either.

I know that you and your child may have been dismissed and that their challenges may have been blamed on bad parenting. (Even though we both know that you are doing the very best that you can for your child with very few resources). 

You are not alone!

Parent Support

You, Your Child, Your Family Is Wired Differently And So Traditional Family Coaching Is Not Going To Work For You And Your Family.

You Need Specialized Parenting Support That Is Built Around Your Child’s Unique Wiring.

The heartbreaking reality is that our Neurodivergent children and teens (by no fault of their own) are more likely to be affected by mental health challenges, dysregulated behaviours, ‘school can’t’,  co-occurring medical conditions, low employment rates, discrimination and bullying. The devasting consequence of this is higher suicide rates and low life outcomes and expectancy rates. 

A large body of research and lived experience suggests that Neurodivergent people (especially Autistics) are more likely to identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, non-binary or transgender which can make parenting feel daunting especially if this is new territory for you.

To add further complexity to your situation, you may have found yourself resonating with your child or teenager’s behaviours and struggles and this has awakened questions in you about your own Neurodivergence. You could be asking yourself, “Could I be Autistic or have ADHD?” 

And you wouldn’t be alone. Research suggests that there is a strong genetic link associated with Autism and ADHD.

“A new widespread study involving more than two million children across five different countries has revealed the variation in autism occurrence in the population is mostly due to inherited genetic influences.  The study found that inherited genes account for about 80 per cent of an individual’s variance in developing autism.” –  Emily Acraman – Altogether Autism

This means that if you are the parent of a child who is Autistic or has ADHD then there is a strong chance that you or your child’s co-parent (or both of you) may be Neurodivergent too, something that many parents are unaware of.  Many parents of children who are Autistic or have ADHD (especially Mothers) only find out that they are Neurodivergent after their children are diagnosed. It can be overwhelming to realize that after years of struggling and not knowing why, your Neurodivergent identity was dismissed or denied.  To realize that you have actually been Autistic or have had ADHD all along!

This can bring up a lot of unprocessed trauma as well as really complex emotions such as anger, sadness, shame and even profound grief.

Parenting your child or teens while reparenting yourself with this new information can feel deeply challenging!  How your Autism or ADHD was responded to as a child can add complexity and compound the difficulty involved with giving your children or teenagers the support that they need now.

Not Sure What To Do Next?

Parent support

Hi There, My Name Is Tanya.

I am a Neuro-Affirming Family Coach who specializes in working with Neurodivergent Parents of Neurodivergent Children and Teenagers. 

As a Neurodivergent person myself and the proud Mama to 3 gorgeous Neurodivergent humans I know only too well the complexities involved with raising children, teens and young adults who are ‘wired differently’ in a world wired for ‘normal’.  Read My Story Here.  

From personal experience, I know what it is like to raise children and teenagers with Autism and ADHD. I also know all too well what it feels like to discover that you are Neurodivergent later in life (I was in my forties).

From my lived experience as a parent and a professional, I know there are very few places that parents can turn to for specialized help and support for their Neurodivergent families.

My trauma-informed approach focuses on listening to you and giving you the empathy, space, guidance and care you need to feel safe to understand yourself and your child or teenager from a Neurodivergent perspective so that your whole family can thrive. 

Book your complimentary 30-minute Parent Connection Call with me 

Parent Testimonial

We have struggled with our daughter’s behaviour since she was a toddler, and have tried so many things to help her including traditional parenting courses and psychologists. 

Working with Tanya, has helped us to see our child and her behaviour from a completely different perspective.  I am finally starting to understand her and the reasons behind her challenging behaviours.  This combined with the practical advice we implemented from our sessions with Tanya has helped us to create more moments of calm and connection in our family. I am finally hopeful for our future. Thank you Tanya.

Jo.