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Midlife Mentor for Soul-Led Women just like YOU.

Welcome to the ‘half-way’ mark my friend. Welcome to this time of mayhem and magic ✨

I see Midlife as an invitation for us as women to pause, reflect and reconnect with the woman we truly are. The woman you were before you became a mum or someone’s partner. I know that she has been calling out to you lately and that may be causing you some distress and confusion.

Let me support you to love and trust yourself again so that you as a woman can have more Joy, Purpose, Confidence, Freedom, Choice and Possibility to have the life YOU truly want.

Just imagine the Magic that can happen from this Midlife Reconnection!

Work with me to:

Rediscover and reconnect with the woman you truly are and learn how to love and trust her. (Not the role or the person other people want you to be)
Heal trauma and move the “mountains” of past mistakes, regrets, others beliefs, expectations from your life.
Break the cycle of ‘selflessness’ that is expected from women in order to be a ‘good mother’ for yourself and your children.
Navigate this stage of transformation with confidence.
Feel positive and confident in your decisions.
Design and live a life that reflects who you truly are and is aligned with your values.
Develop stronger, more loving, authentic, supportive relationships.
Restore a sense of purpose, well-being and balance to your life.
Feel at peace with your past and feel hopeful and excited for your future!
Be the Queen of Your Own Life!

What Being The Queen Of Your Own Life Means To Me

A Queen holds a clear vision for herself aligned to her values and what feels right for her and her life.
A Queen knows that she is already worthy. She does not need anyone to choose her or validate her.
A Queen is a connected and visionary leader who trusts herself and her decisions.
A Queen is a leader. She is not afraid of gathering a team around her and to trust them to help and support her.
A Queen does not discount herself, or allow others to diminish who she is, and instead stands in the light of her own sovereignty.
A Queen values her own energy, and she sets and maintains firm boundaries in order to preserve these for herself.
A Queen lives to serve others, she knows what she wants out of life and that she is here for a purpose.
A Queen invests in herself and her mission.
A Queen wears her crown with dignity, confidence, and pride.

About Tanya - Midlife Mentor For Women

Tanya Valentin is an Author and Midlife Mentor for Women. She is the Founder of The Feminine School of Unlearning.

Tanya supports Soul-Led, Midlife Women who are on an Awakening Journey to reconnect with, love and trust the Woman behind the roles, the responsibilities and the weight of other people’s expectations of who she should be.

Tanya works with you to unlearn the beliefs, behaviours and stories that no longer serve you so that you can feel free to live the next half of your life in a way feels true to who you authentically are as the Queen of your own life!

For over a decade Tanya has worked with women to understand, unlearn, and heal the relationship that they have with themselves.

Tanya is a teacher, mentor and the author of two books including When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains. Tanya uses Archetype work, Storytelling, NLP, REBT, EFT, TFT, Havening and her AWAKEN mentoring framework to support women to claim their crown as the Queen of their own lives!

Tanya lives in beautiful New Zealand with her husband, three teenage daughters, her two dogs, three cats and a collection of cute free-range farm animals.

Read Tanya’s Story HERE

How Can I Help You?

Are You A Soul-Led Midlife Woman Who Is Searching For Her Soul Sisters?

Mid-life is a potent time of letting go and rebirth that can be lonely and confusing for many women. You don’t have to do it alone.

Join my online community for Soul-Led, Midlife Women who are on a Midlife Awakening Journey. Together, we are on a mission to support each other through the ups and downs of midlife, share what brings us alive and unlearn beliefs and behaviours that no longer serve us and can discover what it means to be the Queen of our own lives.

“I have developed more understanding of myself & others & have made steps towards trusting myself.” Julie.

When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains

Learn how to move the ‘mountains’ of others expectations from your life and AWAKEN Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen!

Break out of the roles that you have been handed in life, create more opportunities and take back your own power, by speaking up and making decisions for yourself, with your newfound confidence.

“When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains is a Powerhouse of a book!” April (AMAZON)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

“I would highly recommend this book.” Evelyn (GOODREADS)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Available for purchase on Amazon, Booktopia and The Book Depository

Mentoring With Tanya

As women we are handed roles in life and we are led to believe that we have to fit into our culture’s narrow view of who they think that we are, or should be.

This may have worked for you for the first part of your life, but...Your heart knows that your life could be more fun, creative, purposeful and connected to who you are and what is truly important to you.

You’ve know for a while now that something needs to change but, if you are being really honest with yourself, you are frightened to look at your life too closely because you are not sure if you’ll like what you find.

Change doesn’t need to be scary when you have help. Book a Clarity Session with Me. Let me help you to get clear about what is keeping you stuck and the next steps that you need to take.

Download Your FREE Meditation

As women, we are handed roles, stories, and beliefs from other people about who we are.

When see ourself through the lenses of others beliefs and stories this can limit our choices, possibilities, and our perception of what we think we are capable of. This can have a big influence how we think about ourself but also how speak about and to ourself.

In this FREE Affirmation Meditation I will support you to reconnect with your Inner Queen and remind you just how powerful you are to create the life that you choose!

Read My Latest Blogs

What Is Shadow Work And How To Do It?

The word’s ‘shadow work’ can sound scary and ominous. However, shadow work is simply a process of bringing gentle awareness to these unloved, unwanted bits of ourselves, healing and lovingly accepting and integrating our shadow as part of us.

Read this blog and learn more about your shadow self, shadow teachers, shadow archetypes and how to do shadow work. Download my FREE shadow work journal prompts PDF.

Is It A Midlife Crisis Or A Spiritual Awakening?

Many people upon hearing the word ‘Spiritual Awakening’ might conjure up images of Buddhist monks, psychics or witchy types. We may think that a spiritual awakening is reserved for a select group of people such as people who are devoutly religious. However, regardless of our religious beliefs, we are all capable of and do experience awakenings at various stages of our lives.

What Is The AWAKEN Mentoring Framework?

My AWAKEN Mentoring Framework contains the steps that I believe are necessary for us as women to be initiated into in order to truly reconnect with who we are at our purest essence. Each letter in the word AWAKEN represents a step or a pillar. I use these pillars to inform my work as a Midlife Mentor. I use the AWAKEN Mentoring Framework to support the women I work with in my online community, The Feminine School of Unlearning.