Tanya Valentin
Compassionate guidance for parents of neurodivergent children and teens navigating autistic burnout
Parenting a Neurodivergent Child in Burnout Is Overwhelming
You don’t have to carry this alone…
You’re holding a lot right now.
The meltdowns, the shutdowns, the quiet withdrawal.
The school emails, the fractured sleep, the sadness that sits just beneath the surface.
Your child, you and life has changed so much that it feels hard to know what to do next.
And the questions that keeps circling, no matter how much you try:
“Am I doing enough? Am I responding in the right way?” “Who are we now that everything has changed?”
You may not yet know what to do next, but one thing is becoming clear – You can’t keep going like this.
If you’re here, it means something in you is listening.
That matters.
This space was created for parents who are navigating the long, uncertain middle, where nothing is simple, progress isn’t linear, and the old advice no longer fits.
Here, you don’t have to rush toward answers or prove that you’re doing it right.
Here is where you are allowed to slow things down and make sense of what’s happening, in you, your child, in your nervous system, and in the space between you.
Here is how we do things differently:
I meet you where you are, and we walk together, gently, steadily, grounded in nervous system safety, low-demand parenting, self-compassion, and community.
You can expect gentle, neuro-affirming support for you and your child, that honours how healing actually happens: without pressure, without shame, and without asking you to push past your limits or abandon yourself in the process.
Find the Right Support For You
Hi, I’m Tanya.
I’m a neuro-affirming family coach who works alongside parents navigating burnout, complexity, and uncertainty.
My background spans over 25 years in education, including teaching, leadership development, adult learning, and human development. I’ve completed formal parent-coaching training through the University of Melbourne’s Tuning Into Kids program and have spent many years supporting neurodivergent families in both professional and community settings.
My work is also shaped by lived experience — raising autistic and PDA children, and walking with my daughter through a prolonged and complex burnout crisis. That journey taught me that burnout recovery isn’t something to fix or fast-track, but something that unfolds when nervous systems feel safe enough to soften.
I integrate developmental science, polyvagal-informed practice, and low-demand parenting principles into a compassionate, neuro-affirming approach that honours how healing actually happens: slowly, relationally, and without pressure.
I support parents of neurodivergent children and teens in burnout to make sense of what’s happening, stay connected to themselves, and respond with steadiness and care, even when there are no clear answers yet.
Parenting through burnout is not a journey you should walk alone.
Where do you need the most support right now?
Parenting a neurodivergent child in burnout is hard.
It can leave you questioning yourself, your choices, and your capacity to keep going.
Many parents are led to believe that they have to do this in isolation and put themselves and their needs on hold indefinitely in order to get through.
But the truth is that you don’t have to do this alone, and you don’t have to sacrifice your relationship with your child, or with yourself, to get through it.
My approach is gentle, neuro-affirming, trauma-informed and grounded in the reality that burnout recovery takes time. It’s designed to support you with steadiness and care, without pressure or unrealistic expectations.
What Parents Are Saying
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Frequently Asked Questions
What kind of support do you offer for parents of neurodivergent kids?
I offer a gentle mix of emotional and practical tools—including free resources, mini-courses, a nurturing membership, and 1:1 coaching.
Is this for parents of autistic or PDA children?
Yes. All of my work is rooted in neuro-affirming, trauma-informed support—especially for parents of children with autism, ADHD, or PDA experiencing burnout.
Where should I start if I feel completely overwhelmed?
Start with the Grief Guide or Burnout Signs Checklist—two free, gentle entry points to help you feel less alone and more supported.
