The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox - A Week-By-Week Breakdown

The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox is a 6-week online group coaching program for New Zealand-based families of Neurodivergent (Autistic, ADHD or AuDHD) children or teens. Self-identified families are welcome to join. 

The next program starts on 6 May 2024.

At The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox, our mission is to support parents, with the lived experience, guidance and community to help them understand their children (and themselves), cut through the confusion and the overwhelm and give you real and actionable tools so that you can feel equipped, empowered and confident as a parent. 

This programme is suitable for families who:

  • Know that there is something ‘different’ about their child and recognise that they are neurodivergent (You may or may not be on a waiting list for an official assessment).
  • Have recently received their child’s diagnosis of Autism or ADHD.
  • Have been processing their child’s diagnosis and are now ready to learn more.

This wrap-around toolbox program which incorporates prerecorded education modules, live weekly group coaching sessions and community, teaches you important tools to help you understand your child’s unique wiring, safeguard your child’s (and your) mental health and improve your relationship with your child.

Here is what you will get as part of the program: 

  • A week-by-week curriculum of recorded modules, scripts and resources to go through at your own pace.
  • 6 x 1 hour group coaching sessions.
  • Wrap-around support and communication with me through the chat in the Mighty Networks app.
  • Neuro-affirming and trauma-informed practical tools and strategies developed from lived experience and evidence-based frameworks and research!
  • A small private online community away from social media of parents who ‘get it’.
  • Full, ongoing access to the recordings, resources and community after the program ends.

Each intake of families is capped at 20 families to allow you to get to know the other families in the program in a real and meaningful way. 

The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox

Here is a breakdown of what you will learn during this six-week program:

Week One: Understanding How Your Child’s Brain Works.

  • Gain a life-changing understanding of how your child’s Autistic, ADHD or AuDHD brain, and nervous system work, and why they do the things they do.
  • Learn how to use this understanding to adapt your parenting to support your child in a way that really works!
  • How to tend to your parenting experience with self-compassion.
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Week Two: Understanding Shutdowns, Meltdowns, Explosive Behaviours and Burnout.

  • Learn why meltdowns, shutdowns and burnout happen.
  • Learn how to support your child before, during and after a meltdown or shutdown happens.
  • Learn about the connection between meltdowns, shutdowns and burnout.
  • Learn strategies to reduce the occurrences of meltdowns, shutdowns and explosive behaviour and safeguard your child’s mental health, while protecting them from burnout. 
  • How to understand yourself and your emotions.

Week Three: Understanding Demand Avoidance / Drive For Autonomy.

  • Gain insight into what demand avoidance /drive for autonomy is and how this affects your child and their behaviour.
  • Learn strategies to stabilise their nervous system and work co-operatively with your child to solve problems and address behaviours.
  • Learn ways to create more peaceful connected moments with your child.
  • Learn how to reparent your own inner child with self-compassion.
Neurodivergent family

Week Four: Understanding Executive Function.

  • Gain valuable understanding into how executive functioning works and how this affects your child, their behaviour, social interactions and their school work.
  • Learn helpful ‘brain hacks’ to support your child’s natural executive functioning ability.
  • Learn how to work collaboratively with your child to teach lagging skills in a way that engages your child and safeguards their self-esteem.
  • Learn how to embrace and nurture your child’s unique learning style, strengths and abilities.
  • Learn ways to respond to friends, family and others’ unsolicited advice and feedback.

Week Five: Supporting Your Child With Relationships With Others.

  • Understand how relationships and attachments are formed.
  • Understand ways that Autism and ADHD can affect relationships with others.
  • Learn tools and strategies to support your child to navigate sibling and peer relationships so that they can stay connected to themselves while creating meaningful connections with others.
  • Learn strategies to help you navigate sibling rivalry and arguments.

Week Six:  Navigating The System And Relationships In A Way That Feels Good For You and Your Family.

  • Explore what is important to you as a parent/family and how to use your values and aspirations as a tool to advocate for your child.
  • Explore ways to get on the same page as your partner.
  • Learn valuable insights into the New Zealand school and disability systems.
  • Learn strategies to help you build relationships with your child’s teachers and key workers and advocate for your child and their needs.
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Benefits of the toolbox for you and your family

  • Gain a deeper connection and understanding with your child and yourself as a parent!
  • Feel more connected to and on the same team as your parenting partner!
  • Feel confident and empowered in your parenting decisions!
  • Be able to confidently advocate for your child and your family!
  • Restore joy, connection and calm to your parenting and family life!
  • Rediscover what a good life looks like for you and your family aligned with your values and aspirations!
  • Grow your village of support with other parents who get it!
  • Start parenting from a place of hope and possibility again!

The toolbox program is delivered live and online in our private community, away from social media.  The price of the program is for two people (you and and co-parent).

Click here to read my story of why I created The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox and to browse commonly asked questions.

The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox

$495 (or $123.75 a fortnight when you use Afterpay at checkout)

As part of my commitment to ethical practice, extended payment plans and hardship scholarships are available on request.

The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox is currently accepting enrolments starting 6 May 2024.  Click here to join our waiting list to express your interest.


Do you have questions about if The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox is the right fit for you? 

Call or text Tanya on 0279248202 to arrange a friendly, FREE no-obligation chat.

What Parents Are Saying About The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox

“I’m loving the content in these weekly sessions Tanya, it’s all so informative and so relevant for life in our whare.”

“We are talking such big topics that are meaty. I worried when I signed up that this might be a beginners course in parenting ND but you are providing lots of valuable information and challenging lots of my thought processes.”

“I really enjoyed it, my husband said last night he could tell how much I had my confidence back leading the boys.”

“I’m slowly working through the course material and it is so good to have things explained in a clear way and then discussed/reflected on. I have been talking a lot about your course and highly recommending it to parents and Educators I work with day to day.”

Meet Tanya

Tanya Valentin is a Trauma-Informed and Neuro-Affirming Family Coach, NZ Registered Teacher, Lecturer (Te Pukenga – Early Childhood Education and Care), Author and Podcaster.

Tanya is a Neurodivergent person and a proud Mama of 3 Neurodivergent humans. She works to support, educate and foster inclusion, acceptance and positive life outcomes for all neurodivergent children, teenagers and adults in all her areas of life.

Tanya lives with her family in beautiful Northland, New Zealand. She has authored several books and blogs and co-hosts the Seen Heard Accepted Podcast with her family. She is the founder of the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox and the Parenting Neurodivergent Kids Together Community and podcast.

Tanya is committed to making a difference in the world by supporting parents with practical tools and strategies to help them understand their child and their unique wiring, feel confident in their parenting and nurture strong connections between themselves and their children.

Tanya Valentin