We all start off our parenting journey with a ‘plan’.
A set of expectations, dreams and aspirations for ourselves, our children and what our parenting journey should look like.
Chances are your ‘plan’ looked nothing like this.
When we or our children are struggling the whole family struggles. We can be so hard on ourselves as we try to pick apart our lives and find ‘that one thing’ that we could have said or done differently in order to avoid what is going on for our kids.
Some days parenting can feel like your universe is a million pieces. All individual moving parts, spinning in a never-ending cosmos around you. It can feel as if you are juggling all these different hand-spun glass balls – delicate constellations, the life force of others in your hands as you desperately juggle – hands moving in a blur trying to stop them from falling, each one as fragile and precious to you as the other.
On days like this, it can feel impossible to ask for help.
I get it.
For so many of us, family is our most treasured value. This means that not only are our families the most precious thing to us, but the high expectations that we hold ourselves to because of this value becomes the standard from which we judge ourselves the harshest on.
I know what it is like to look at your struggling child and blame yourself. To pick up the courage to ask for help only to feel the cold stare of counsellors and medical professionals’ assessment of your parenting.
I know what it is like to come to the realisation that you may be Neurodivergent yourself and not know how or where to access support.
I know what it feels like to be dismissed and to be told that your instincts are wrong or that your children’s (and your own) struggles are all ‘in your head’.
It can feel really hard to trust others with these most vulnerable parts of you.
I’ve been where you are and I can help.
In all my years, I have come to learn this one thing. In order for us as Neurodivergent Parents and our Neurodivergent Children and Teens to safely thrive being ourselves in this world, we as parents need to equip ourselves and our children with the tools and skills necessary to advocate for our right to take up the space we were born to fill.
I specialize in working in partnership with parents who are seeking help in the following areas:
- Guidance and insight into understanding your Authentic Neurodivergent Identity as a late-diagnosed Autistic or person with ADHD or as a person who is questioning your Autism or ADHD.
- Support for your role as a parent with Neuro and LGBTQ+ Affirming parenting tools and strategies to support your children and teens with their behaviour, anxiety, panic attacks, melt-downs, shut-downs and autistic burn-out – which will have huge ongoing benefits for their (and your) mental health.
- Support with how to respond to your teen’s ‘coming out’ in terms of sexuality and gender with understanding and sensitivity.
- Assistance as to how you can adapt your parenting approach to meet the needs, strengths and difficulties of your child.
- Support with how to get on the same page with a co-parent, and set boundaries with friends and extended family members when it comes to unsolicited comments or advice about your children.
- Guidance with how to navigate the New Zealand school and mental health systems.
- Guidance for how to be more Trauma-Informed and Neuro-Affirming towards yourself, including how to make time for and prioritize yourself and your needs as the Neurodivergent full-time carer of a child or teenager with complex needs.
- A safe place to share your questions about your child’s, teenager’s and/or your Neurodivergence, your thoughts, emotions and grief.
- Support with creating a new ‘plan’ for yourself and your family going forward.
Every Neurodivergent person and family is different and has different support needs. This means that there is a ‘no one size fits all’ approach that is going to suit everyone. This is why I believe in listening to my clients and supporting them in a way that feels right for them and their families.
Let me give you the empathy, time, trauma-informed, personal guidance and practical skills that you need so that you can feel safe to be seen, heard and understood.
My 1:1 Parent Coaching Partnership provides the privacy, support and personalized response to support both you as a parent and your children and teen/s
What you can expect from our 1-1 Coaching Partnership:
- Confidential, personalized support for you and your family.
- Empathy, understanding and guidance for you while you explore your Neurodivergent identity and your parenting journey from a parenting coach with decades of professional experience supporting children and families and lived personal experience with her own Neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ Children and Teens.
- Trauma-informed, evidence-based, practical tools that will equip you with an empowering skill set that will give you grounded confidence in yourself and as a parent.
How it works:
60-minute Zoom Sessions (weekly or bi-weekly)
$165 per session. (If you are in New Zealand speak to to me about how you can use your individualized funding to pay for your sessions with me)