Compassionate guidance for parents of neurodivergent children and teens navigating autistic burnout
A Collaboration Between Tanya Valentin and Laura Hellfeld Has your neurodivergent child ever said things like, “I hate you,” “I hate myself,” “I wish you would die,” or “I want to die” during a meltdown? Or perhaps they make unintelligible sounds, repeat the same words, cry, laugh, or say things that seem ‘inappropriate’ when they’re […] Read more…
For parents who don’t know where to begin You’re Exhausted, Unsure, and Wondering “Why isn’t my child recovering from burnout? What am I missing?” If you’re here, you’ve probably already tried to lower demands, read the advice, maybe even fought your way through countless professional appointments—yet your child still seems stuck in burnout. And underneath […] Read more…
For parents overwhelmed by everyday meltdowns, shutdowns, and reactivity Does this sound like you? If this is your reality, you are not failing.You simply don’t have the tools you need yet. Parent-to-Parent Reflection: “I used to feel so guilty every time my child melted down, like I was doing something wrong. Now I know it’s […] Read more…
For parents processing loss, identity shifts, and deep emotions The Grief No One Talks About in Parenting When your child is in burnout, it’s not just their world that changes; it’s yours too. You may find yourself grieving the life you thought you’d have, the parenting journey you imagined, or even the child you hoped […] Read more…
Your “all-in” toolkit for parenting through burnout Parenting in Burnout Feels Like Survival Every day brings new challenges: meltdowns, shutdowns, school struggles, hidden grief, pressure from others, and your own exhaustion. You’ve tried piecing together advice from books, therapists, social media—but it’s overwhelming, contradictory, and rarely built with neurodivergent families in mind. What you really […] Read more…
And how they became the foundation of everything I now teach. There was a moment, and maybe you’ve had one like this, where everything in me said, “I can’t keep doing this.“ My child was in deep burnout.I was in burnout.And nothing I tried was working anymore. The strategies that were meant to help only […] Read more…
In this episode, Tanya discusses the dark thoughts and complex emotions parents face when navigating their child’s burnout. She addresses feelings of guilt, grief, jealousy, fear, and isolation, emphasising the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. Tanya provides insights into the healing journey for both parents and children, encouraging listeners to embrace their struggles and seek […] Read more…
In this conversation, Tanya discusses the Burnout Recovery Roadmap, emphasizing the importance of awareness in understanding the stages of burnout recovery for children, particularly those who are neurodivergent. She outlines the five distinct stages of burnout recovery, from daily burnout to the new normal, and highlights the emotional and practical challenges parents face during this […] Read more…
This episode delves into the complexities of parenting autistic children, particularly focusing on the challenges of burnout, the emotional toll on parents, and the need for greater awareness and understanding within the community. Tanya shares her personal experiences, highlighting the importance of recognizing burnout, navigating feelings of guilt and shame, and advocating for systemic […] Read more…
A tender look at grieving parenting expectations, change and the radical acceptance of who your neurodivergent child is becoming after burnout. There’s a question I hear often, though it’s rarely spoken aloud: “Will my child ever go back to how they were before burnout?” It’s such a tender, raw question. And underneath it is often […] Read more…